Sep 24 2006
5 Things a Feminist Has Done for Me and You
No, I am not going to make a list. I think it has all been said by now. If you haven’t spotted the quasi-meme, enjoy.
# EBD Says:
September 24th, 2006 at 1:33 pmFive things feminism has done for me:
1. Introduced me to the deadly-serious issue of post-traumatic de-funding rage.
2. Taught me that even as I sit alone in a room reading a book I am a raping colonialist steamroller.
3. Made me realize that kids are so, you know, yesterday.
4. Taught me that women who stay with their children in the daytime to nurture and love them are in fact ultra-right wing fascists whose reason for being is to destroy the hard-won gains of urban libertines.
5. Rubbed my nose in the reality of yeast-related trailblazing down to the knees.
I love that one in bold. For more, check out Dust My Broom (make sure to pay attention to the comments), and then for a view from a woman who knows how to pistol-whip with her computer (no mean feat), check out Choice for Childcare.
The kicker is a Progressive Blogger suggested this whole idea! Ha ha ha!
10 Responses to “5 Things a Feminist Has Done for Me and You”
Thanks for the laugh! LOL!
I should have cited you in my linkage, seeing as how you got CFC up in arms in the first place.
Oh no biggy.
Kathy Shaidle who’s guest blogging at SDA has linked you. Expect traffic!
Heh. Now that is some kind of fun! Good thing I upgraded my hosting package!
As a male oppressor, it has given me guilt-free, responsibility-free sex with countless women, whereas in a more orderly society, I’d be out of luck (or married).
That is one thing that many overlook is that ultimately, modern feminism has played right into the hands of misogynists (not used correctly - most misogynists don’t in fact “hate” women, they merely treat them with contempt). Modern feminism has convinced women that they need to be more like men. They need to treat sex as casually as men. They need to compete with men. They need to be as aggressive as men. They need to take a untilitarian approach to every asset they own including their sexuality to “get ahead”. What has it led to? Women who think that it is ok for men to consider them sex objects because they can use it to their advantage. Women who think that it is ok to have causal promiscuous sex - that it is “liberating” to play into the lusts of men and condone their behaviour.
Aside from the silly job equity and political correct stuff, it is a great time to be a man. Women are way easier these days than in the old days, thanks to feminism.
Too bad two wrongs don’t make a right.
Great post…and you’ve got sara pegged…she’s gonna love that one!!
Taught me that women who stay with their children in the daytime to nurture and love them are in fact ultra-right wing fascists
typical unsound reasoning from those who can’t grasp complex problems AKA a circular argument.
to suggest that anyone who stays home to raise their children must be a conservative is laughable. to go on to say that only conservatives love their children is just pathetic.
furthermore, to be unable to see that it is possible in the course of a meaningful life to study, travel , work, volunteer, and raise children if one chooses limits no one but you.
blaming your own feelings of inadequacy on those who choose to live life to it’s fullest must be a difficult thing to do everyday.
You are missing the point entirely. We are talking about perceptions here. What the quote is from is a person who is writing what they feel is the reality amongst neo-feminists. It isn’t often said out loud, but that is how they are treated.
Nobody is arguing that it is possible to “live life” without being a stay-at-home mother. What is being argued is that feminists treat women who do like lepers, or like the description says. Like there is no meaning in life UNLESS you ignore your kids, or better yet, never have any because it gets in the way of your own “self-actualization”.
Now, if you are saying, like the quoted person feels, that we feel inadequate because people who use daycare routinely and run down stay-at-home parents for their lifestyle choices are “living life to its fullest”, then we must disagree. I for one feel that living life to its fullest means loving to the fullest, and putting those you love most ahead of your own selfish, self-centred aggrandizement. Self-sacrifice is truly the noblest of virtues, and it is sad that so many have lost sight of that.
Take a second and ask a couple of kids, one in a daycare since sh/he was 2 and one who has been raised by a stay-at-home parent. Ask them how loved they feel, how secure they are in their parent’s affections. I thnk you already know the answer you will get. If I have been stuck in the care of a paid worker in groups of 20 or more, and only see my parents at night, I won’t feel very loved. But if I have a parent who has been there for me through every single hurt, every single hardship, every single learning experience, and if I am old enough to realize that my parent could have been as you say, “living life to its fullest” instead of raising me, I will know how loved I am.
I am reminded of a story of a child who was teased relentlessly at school because her mother was disfigured with scars on her face. One day she finally asked her mother how she got the scars. Her mother told her that when she was a baby, there had been a fire. Her mother had run into the house and rescued her unharmed, but at the cost of bad burns to herself. Her mother would never be pretty again, her mother would have to endure looks and scorn and ostracism because of her appearance forever, but her daughter was never ashamed again of her mother, because she knew how much she was loved.
What are you willing to sacrifice for your children? Your time? Your job? Your trip to Egypt? Your night life? Your body? Your hobbies? Your “FULFILLED LIFE”? What you are willing to sacrifices tells in truth how much you love your kids. Actions speak much louder than words.
I don’t feel inadequate. Do you?
Wait-Feminism is NOT a bad word. And for the evidence, go to the Feministsforlife.org site. Plus, Feminists for Life is launching a new online initiative